Parents' Perspective on School Shootings

Florida school shooting: One mother, two gun attacks

By Georgina Rannard BBC News

• 4 March 2018

Florida school shooting

It's a story that sounds impossible. Lightning never strikes twice, so they say. Except when it does."I want our story to remain shocking forever - but I'm worried that already we're not alone," Celia Randolph says.

On the surface they are a normal family - mum, dad, four kids. They've lived in small towns in America that seemed safe.
Celia's children speak carefully and precisely, like their mother. "I'm not an emotional person," Celia explains. "But I'm now very angry and I'm very sad. America has failed our kids. What happened to my daughter in 2006 shook me and my husband to the core."
Then on Valentine's Day this year she got a text. Celia saw the words: "You're not near Parkland are you? There's been a shooting."
"I kept saying to myself, 'Not again, not again.'" Celia dropped everything: "When it happens, you run. You run." Her son Christian is a junior at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School, Parkland, Florida.

The first time someone called Celia to say a gunman was in her child's school was 12 years ago.
She and her husband Jason were 50 miles from home. "We raced to get to her."
Chelsea was 14 years old and they were living in Bailey, a small mountain town in Colorado. The Columbine massacre, in which 13 people were killed, had happened in 1999 just under an hour away but the beautiful forest and mountains gave their home a secluded, quiet feeling.
When Chelsea tells her story - which she's never spoken about publicly before - she's anxious: "What happened to other families is worse. Don't overshadow them."
She's talking about the family of her friend Emily Keyes - the 16-year-old was killed in the violent end to a hostage crisis in their school in 2006. The gunman had entered the Platte Canyon High School with a handgun and a rucksack he said held explosives. He took six girls hostage in a classroom. The siege ended four hours later when a Swat team blew a hole in the wall.

At first Chelsea hid under a table in the classroom opposite, holding her best friend's hand. When a Swat team knocked down the door, they escaped. "You have to understand, to see a man with a full-on vest, with full-on attire, and a gun bursting into your classroom telling you to get out - you have no idea what is going to happen to you," she says. "As we ran out, in every corner we saw a Swat man with a gun. I saw my friend in one classroom, petrified and pale. He couldn't speak."
Once Chelsea made it home with her parents, they watched the crisis play out on TV. She watched helicopters, police, guns swarm over her school. "We didn't know who the hostages were but we could piece together the classroom timetable and who would have been in there."
Accurate information was hard to come by. Her only option was to watch TV to find out what happened to her captive classmates. "We saw the girls released one by one - there was a hill by the school and we watched them running for their lives up it."
After a pause, she continues, "I remember an image of a stretcher coming out of the school and put in a helicopter."

The shootings shattered Celia: "it was very, very difficult. You just think, 'I can't protect my kids.' It's horrible.
"It took away the sense of security that I hoped my children would have. A stranger came into our world and did this terrible thing. You felt like, if it could happen there, where could you keep your family safe?
"We raised our children teaching them to be more afraid of harm from animals than from people."
She consoled herself with the thought that she didn't feel it was a targeted attack on the school. "The emphasis was on healing and performing random acts of kindness. We all considered it a random act of violence rather than a 'school shooting'."
But her sadness made her feel guilty. "I would think I get to hug Chelsea, what's wrong with me for being upset?" She says looking after a traumatised child took its toll, but that she and her husband gave their children a stable upbringing. "We have good family relationships and we loved them. I don't think it changed our family life permanently."
Chelsea finished the school year and in 2007 the family left Colorado, returning to Celia and Jason's roots in Florida.
Family life ticked by and although Celia never felt that she had closure, she says they've been "very blessed". Twelve years on, gun laws have barely altered in the US. An estimated 57 mass shootings have happened between 2006 and 2018. Still, Celia found it unimaginable that it would happen to another of her children.

The second time someone called Celia to say a gunman was in her child's school was two weeks ago.
Christian is 16 and is quiet with a calm manner. He's smart and Celia and Jason chose Marjory Stoneman Douglas, in Parkland, Florida, for its academic reputation.
He was in a culinary class when he and his classmates heard shots. Their teacher, Ashley Kurth, pushed them into a cupboard. "At first we didn't take it seriously but then we got quieter and quieter. I resigned myself to the floor. I couldn't convey any emotions because we had to stay silent. People were texting their parents, but I couldn't - I had forgotten to charge my phone."
After getting the news, Celia ran to her car. She got as close to the school as possible. "I couldn't get any information. I was texting him and he didn't respond," she explains. "That killed me. I was only thinking, "Is my child alive? Is he scared? Is he injured?"
A barricade was blocking parents' access to the grounds as police searched for the gunman.

Christian's teacher let into her classroom more children who'd been trapped in hallway. They listened to police updates through a walkie-talkie. She reassured the teenagers that, should the gunman find them, they were in a kitchen surrounded by huge knives. Like his sister, Christian remembers the Swat team bursting in: "They shouted, 'Hands up, lie down.' They couldn't be sure one of us wasn't the shooter."
On the way out Christian saw blood on the stairs outside his classroom. "We ran to the street. There were helicopters, police, military equipment everywhere. We were allowed to see our parents. At first I was so happy I was out of there but then I became sadder and sadder."
While Chelsea had felt isolated by the memories of what she witnessed, Christian has the dubious fortune of having a sibling who also survived a shooting.

"She told me she too wanted to stay inside when it happened, that it took her a while to feel anything, that she felt numb at first. She said she broke down, got better, then four years later broke down again. For all the wrong reasons, it's wonderful to have her. She already knows what's going to happen to me - she's just waiting," he says.
For Celia, two weeks after the Parkland shooting, the realisation that not one but two of her children have been caught up in and, thankfully, survived school shootings is sinking in.
Celia's experience means she knows what's coming for the Parkland community, even before they do.

"The other parents and children injured will be dealing with their trauma for a long, long time. I feel sad I know what's going to happen next." "I'm really struggling to cope with the idea that two of my children had to dodge bullets. It's so sad to me that I have a child that went through it and now has to comfort her little brother."
She's in a community message group - members recently asked what the millions of crowdfunded dollars will be used for. After all, the funeral and medical expenses of the victims will be met by the local county.
"There are costs they can't imagine right now. The parents who can't work because of hospital visits or caring for traumatised kids still have mortgages to pay. It's for the counselling for the kids, which will take years. But they don't know all of that yet," she explains.
She's seen one community cope with the aftermath of a shooting already. Although she says Bailey "came together in an amazing way" she says "processing what's happened takes time".

"Not all the kids in Parkland are going to do well. They're not all going to come out of this OK. You don't have a concept of how long this road is going to be, and not only for the victims' families," she warns.
It's the first time she's told many people what happened in 2006 - the reaction is one of shock. The family, who found the media circus in both shootings intrusive and traumatising, want to speak publicly to call for an end to school shootings. "We are not anti-gun, but we are against these weapons of war being so readily available. We need not to fail our kids. People can't believe our family has been through two shootings, but I'm not so sure the chances aren't pretty good of there being more like us unless we do something about this."
The teenagers from Stoneman Douglas went back to school last week, some of them now famous for their passionate calls to end to gun violence. In the days since the shooting, President Trump shocked lawmakers by calling for the type of gun law changes that Republicans rarely back, and major retailers have reduced access to some weapons or ended links with the National Rifle Association.
Celia has seen the cycle of violence, public outrage and a return to status quo many times. "If Sandy Hook couldn't change things, will this?"

She wants the conversation to move away from debates about mental health and expanding access to guns to teachers, saying: "Until there's alternative political funding that's not from the NRA, there won't be any change." But she believes there is something different this time. "These kids have access to social media and are very articulate but also privileged. The kids have shamed the adults into action. I love them dearly for it and my family has joined them. Now they need to go to school and just be kids. It is our duty as the adults. It's not too late for us."
On Wednesday, Christian returned for one day to the classroom where he hid from a gunman. "I do know that he has not yet been hit with that punch of realisation of what he and his school have been through. This is where my experience of the past makes me sad. That said, it makes Jason and I more understanding of him when that time comes," Celia explains. The next day, events began to catch up with Christian and he was unable to go to school

Source:

http://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-43156477

February 14, 2018

In the most prosperous country in the world
families always live in fear.
On February 14, 2018
parents and students across the country
were totally lost in tears.

Every morning before parents drop their children
at school, they silently pray:
"Please protect my child from any danger and harm.
Please keep this school from all evils.
Please make it a safe place for children to learn
and have a good time with friends and teachers."
As parents are hugging and kissing goodbye to their children
in front of  the school, they silently pray:
"Please protect this school from all wrongdoers.
Please let me see my child again unharmed after school."

In the most prosperous country in the world
families have been living in terror for many many years.
Teachers and students, as little as kindergarteners,
have been exercising lockdown drills
for terror is part of their daily life
it is a norm to learn to "stop, drop and cover",
to "make your body as small as you can"
in order to survive a mass massacre.
Such is a routine - part of life in post-modern era
in the most prosperous country in the world.

Would prayers be able to protect children from evils?

Aren't they just echoes in an echo chamber?
After February 14, 2018
parents are frustrated and scared,
students feel empty and angry
going back to school
their 17 friends and teachers there no more.

In the most prosperous country in the world
politicians ramble on and on to get elected
from their mouths spat out big words
"Freedom", "Justice", "Democracy",
"Fraternity", "Equality".....
During campaigns it is so simple and easy for them
to blame their opponents, rivals and enemies.
It is extremely difficult for them to learn
to listen to the people's sufferings
to feel families' stunning shocks and stupefying losses
to learn to care about and to learn to love
the speechless, the weakest, the most vulnerable.

Use your votes, not your prayers
to protect children from wrongdoers.
Use your right to voice for the speechless,
the innocents people who could voice no more
who didn't know why their lives were ended
at such a young age
in the school they loved so much.
From their graves
and from every corner on earth 
I hear echoes:
How many more to die?

If in the most prosperous country in the world
law makers have sold their souls to the devils and serve the evils,
I would rather be a disobedient citizen,
living unarmed among chimps and gorillas in the jungle.






 

March for Our Lives Campaign

"We are losing our lives while the adults are playing around." 

Cameron Kasky, student survivor from
Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School



"It is absolutely insane that a 19-year-old cannot purchase alcohol but can walk in and buy an AR-15 - a weapon of war, by all means a weapon of mass destruction."

Alex Wind, student survivor from
Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School
 


"If the president wants to come up to me and tell me to my face that it was a terrible tragedy and... how nothing is going to be done about it, I'm going to happily ask him how much money he received from the National Rifle Association."
"To every politician who is taking donations from the NRA - shame on you!"


Emma Gonzalez, who took cover on the floor of her secondary school's auditorium during the attack



According to the Center for Responsive Politics, the NRA spent $11.4m (£8.1m) supporting Mr Trump in the 2016 campaign, and $19.7m opposing Hillary Clinton.


Join March for Our Lives Campaign - March 24, 2018

Join in the online #MeNext? Campaign

Join in the Never Again Campaign

"Adults have failed us. Everyday, we students walk into school with the promise of an education without threat of violence. However, it has become increasingly clear that hallways of schools across America are no longer a guaranteed safe haven. Whether it's an elementary school in small-town Connecticut or a high school in Florida, it's become apparent that school shootings are becoming an expected part of American life. Since 2013, there have been 291 school shootings, with 18 of them happening in 2018 alone. We simply ask how many shootings will it take, how many innocent children have to die, until adults decide we, as our nation's children, are more important than our nation's guns. Therefore, we ask our fellow students to take it upon ourselves to stand up as our adults remain sitting. We demand change.

While most students cannot vote, we are not voiceless to our society. There are about 56 million K through 12 students in the United States. If we mobilize this population -- by signing petitions, contacting lawmakers, and utilizing social media -- we can make our presence felt. Ultimately, our goal is to pressure lawmakers to make comprehensive and responsible gun control policy to keep our schools and society safe.
It's not a matter of if anymore, it's a matter of when we will be affected. "
Students For Gun Legislation

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http://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-43105701